I think we can all agree on the fact that if a ghost were to appear in front of our very eyes, we’d all be screaming at the top of our lungs, scared not knowing what to do while contemplating our death. I mean, I don’t know about you, but even seeing them on a movie screen makes me want to jump, shout and scream. However, those are not the ghosts that I’m going to be talking about in this article.
I am referring to the ghosts that come to your life and leave without notice. The ghosts that at one point brought joy and laughter to you every day but then later would disappear, only to leave behind false hope and trauma — the ones who would haunt your future opportunities in finding true love.
It hurts. It hurts knowing that someone who you once fell in love for or was falling in love for decides to just leave without notice. To realize that the person that was once your morning alarm, your call to go to bed, your source of joy and strength is now gone is a pain words can’t begin to explain. For you to fall in love with the artist that painted your life with such beautiful colors and for him/her, one sudden moment, to erase all that and fill your life with pitch-black darkness is an agony that strikes deep within the soul.
However, with all the pain that we endure in this life, there is always a way for us to feel happy again and become better as a result of what we went through. In instances such as this, accepting your feelings and allowing yourself to feel hurt is okay. It’s totally okay for you to cry and feel sad about it, but remember to be gentle with yourself and have sympathy for your emotions. Always keep in mind that: you are always worthy of being loved by yourself.
Furthermore, make sure to take care of yourself! Things such as making sure you are sleeping and eating well, practicing mindfulness, and exercising play an important role in your road to recovery. The journey towards feeling and becoming better will not be easy, but continue to persevere and take those steps to make yourself feel better.
Along the journey, there will be moments where you will revisit the pain that you felt earlier. As you go back in time and feel those emotions once again, there might be a part of you that will need closure; that wants to know the reason why it all happened. But, in all honesty, you might never get it. You might never know the reason why but a part of moving on is to be okay with the uncertainty. So, it’s good for you to know when to ask for closure and when to just walk and move on.
The journey won’t be easy. Why? Well, because part of the journey is a reflection of the pain you had to endure. But in saying that, continue to walk and take steps to become better. Don’t be afraid to go back out there again. Let it go, go out, and start again.
Fortunately for all of us, we live a life that is full of grace. Hold on to that grace, for it is because of that grace, that we have the will to live on.
Translated by Benayah Sitorus
