It is hard to forgive. Well, at least for some.
Forgiveness isn’t something that comes easy. It’s not only where a person chooses to have a peaceful relationship with the one who hurt them, but it’s also an act of letting go.
I don’t know about you but letting go of something is sometimes hard. Especially if that something hurt you in such a way that it affected the way you think, feel, and know things to be. It’s like you’ve just been thrown deep into the ocean and told to swim back to shore without having so much but little to no energy.
You see, when you choose to forgive, it means that you have signed up for a long process full of emotions, anger, and frustration that you will have to go through. Like a track runner that runs hurdles, there will be obstacles along the way that you will have to power yourself over to get to the end goal.
Now, what might that end goal be? Well, the answer to that would be: having the courage to forgive and the opportunity at happiness and joy once again.
But before reaching that final stage, there is something that is known as the process, or as I like to call it: the valley. And well, having to go through this valley will not be easy. So it’s okay to find it hard and to struggle when you are walking in it.
The reason being is that you’re still contained within the sea of your emotions and still reflecting on the thing that hurt you. Because of this, it’s hard to look at things from a clear and open perspective, at that time. There’s a struggle in trying to find the solution or even the reason why it all happened. However, amid all these emotions, choose to be patient with yourself.
Everything takes time. That includes the pain that you are currently experiencing as a result of that something. There’s no need to hurry or to force yourself to further accelerate the process. Doing so will only damage you in the long run. Instead, choose to be patient and give yourself time to endure it all and take it all in and become better because of it.
You can do it. You will get through it. You will become better because of it.
Always choose forgiveness. Always.
Translated by Benayah Sitorus
